The Essays

what TO say when someone dies

Unsure of what to say? Come closer, my little feline!

Jun 11 •

what NOT to say when someone dies

a Public Service Announcement

Jun 7 •

The Dead Dads Club

Welcomes their brand new member, me

Apr 7 •

cancer & confetti

or: Fascism, Brolicharchy, Dying Mothers & Defending my Joy

Mar 13 •

The Sick Moms Club

Only one criteria for membership!

Feb 17 •

february, the month you're supposed to be in love

Valentine's Day sucks for nearly everyone... Must it?

Jan 31 •

Sundowning, or, the first time your mother doesn't know you

"You can’t leave. The baby is here. Your things are here."

Jan 28 •

High in IKEA, the complete transcript

THC has never been my friend before

Jan 19 •

STOP ASKING GRIEVING PEOPLE if there's "anything you can do."

Do this instead.

Jan 15 •

How to Date Your Sadness So It Doesn't Destroy You

Perhaps the most useful thing I've ever written. Please read if you're sad, or know someone who is.

Jan 9 •

24 Things I Learned in 2024 That I Didn’t Really Want to Know

(but in good news, I got my mojo back)

Jan 1 •

breaking open my head circa 2019

Mar 1, 2024 •

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